Why we said the things we said !

This post was first published on 30th September 2006 at 01:57 AM on my previous blog

The following is a comment that I left on a friends blog w.r.t my blog 'About a boy'. The reason i'm putting it up here too is that :

(a) It became kickass long and almost a blog entry in itself.
(b) it should help make the entry 'About a boy' more clear.

Hey Andi ! Thanks for visiting my blog and actually reading it. My link has been 'out there' for months now and you are only the second person to visit ! :-p I read your entries and would like to respond to the one releated to the 'love' issue. I think there are a couple of things that should make our point more clear. Like the reasons why we told our friend whatever we told him.

See, basically, whatever has been adviced to him has been learnt from previous personal experiences. Here I shall speak only about my own. "Its better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all". This I've learned from my first major heartbreak. Its not about announcing it to the world but rather letting that person know. I believe if you like someone then you should just go ahead and say it. It makes you feel lighter.. yes... is that selfish ? No... I don't think so... we haveto understand that the degree of 'love' varies from person to person much like the nature of people. Therefore not everyone can keep it all inside of them and lead on normal lives. For some of us, it becomes increasingly important to share it with people or maybe even 'that one person'. I believe a big part about loving someone ( parents, siblings, firends or others ) is expressing your love for them in words or actions. Keeping it inside will not tell them how you feel. Same rule applies in romantic situations. Even if the girl/guy doesn't like you, she/he should still know 'for sure' how you feel and then the way she/he treats you can tell you all you need to know about that person. Given, some people may find it very awkward to be around a 'proposer' (if thats even a word) but then if you ain't going to be around them much, then what difference does it make ? Now the best thing about the future is that no one can tell how its going to unfold. So you never know what might happen once you actually tell that person how you feel. And brings us to "You'll forever regret not confessing cause you will never know what could have been". I think if you want something (in this case, someones affection) then please get off your ass and work towards getting it. I have seen the most impossible situations turn around like magic. Hopeless situations turn and become festivities ! And also vice-versa. But there have also been times that, all that was standing in the way of a possible romance was the guts to ask each other out from either side. Time passes by and the feelings fade... then who is to say what could have been ? It could have been over in a few days or.... it could have lasted forever. The only way you can make sure is going ahead and doing it... so you know... rather than wondering forever about that cute girl who made your knees weak and your throat dry !So.. you know.. thats that...

Hey, I'm sorry for writing such a big comment. And i don't really know if it makes any sense at all... but thats kinda explaining why we push 'A' so much ! ;-) And thanks again taking interest in my writings... hope to talk to you more !