Of an Australian pervert !!

First things first...

Hang the bastard... hang the bastard... HANG THE BASTARD !!

This man...

Sheikh Taj Aldin Al Hilali - Considered to be the senior most Mufti in Australia and New Zealand

is a pervert !! A horny, frustrated and bitter man who also is the new bench-mark of shallowness !! This so called 'religious leader' had the following to say about women...

"If you take out uncovered meat and place it outside on the street, or in the garden, or in the park, or in the backyard without cover, and the cats come to eat it ... whose fault is it, the cats' or the uncovered meat's?"

He said this in reference to rape ! So lets get this straight... he thinks women are just 'meat'... he also thinks that it is the women's fault if she gets raped... hmmm... also... he had this to say about how women should 'avoid' rape...

"If she (a woman) was in her room, in her home, in her hijab, no problem would have occurred."

Right... so... women are meat... Its their fault if they get raped... and... a women's place is in her home behind a veil... hmmmm... why havn't the Australians prosecuted him already ?!?! This guy said all this with conviction, to a large gathering and after all this time... he is still a senior leader in the Australian muslim clergy ?!?! Amazing ! I'm ashamed on behalf of the Australian Muslim ! You guys suck ! That's for showing your support to him ! How far has religion altered your minds that you cannot differentiate between religious teachings by a pious man and rubbish flowing out of a perverts mouth ?!?! Its amazing ! And because of the outcry from the 'general public' after these remarks... all that he is forced to do is take a three month 'vacation' ! That's punishment ? Wow !

I understand freedom of speech and all... but come on ! The Australian Muslim community can't let this happen ! This dude claims to represent you ! He is considered a senior leader in your world ! Do these views of his represent your views too ?!?! Why can't we stand up for whats right and not support a jerk just because he belongs to 'our' religion ?!?!

Today he speaks like this... tomm he might act in a similar manner... this is the stuff fundamentalists are made off... wake up Australians (of all religions)... there is a perv in your midst !!

No no... The press got me wrong... what I really meant was that I like fantasizing about sexy women while I'm screwing a piece of meat !

The Imam who stole Eid !!

What is this bloody world coming too when you can't even have one decent festival without some self-emphasizing jack-ass ruining it for everyone ?!?! I'd like to ask this man...

Mr. Bukari, Shahi Imam of Jama Masjid, New Delhi

WHATS THE BIG IDEA ?!?!?! What the hell made you decide at 1:30 in the morning that the next day would be Eid when all evening you could see no new moon ?!?! Or did you see some magical moon that no one else could ?!?!

Because of this man... Delhi and Jammu & Kashmir celebrated Eid on the 24th of Oct '06 where as actually it was supposed to be on the 25th of Oct '06 (as celebrated everywhere else). How excited was he that he just couldn't wait to declare Eid ?!?! According to me this year we didn't have any Eid ! Cause there was no credibility left ! It caused so much confusion ! People's schedules, plans and leaves, all got messed up. I mean everyone KNEW it was on 25th but no... you are sleeping in the middle of the night and BAM ! Its Eid !! Good luck trying to manage your life now ! Its this kind of rubbish behaviour that makes everyone think maulvs are nuts !

I personally had applied for leave from work for the 25th ! But then Eid was declared on 24th and there ! I had to go to work and then take a half day ! And I didn't like it ! I don't even celebrate Eid all that much but the sheer stupidity that took place really pissed me off ! So now people think they are that important that they can just hijack an important festival and celebrate it whenever they like ?!?! Tsk tsk... and then you ask why the world is at odd with Muslims ?!?! Cause people like you make us all look like fools ! Imagine, its supposed to be a govt. holiday on Eid... and the confusion that resulted this time around ! And what about those poor Muslim govt. employees ?!?! They know that the real Eid is on the 25th but they haveta go to work then cause the govt. listened to Mr. Bukhari and 24th was declared a holiday ! Dumb ass ! I don't get the different day Eid funda of Middle-east (Its one day earlier there than in India, even though the time difference is just two and half hours) but this just takes that dumbness to a whole new level... different days in the SAME country !?!?!?!

Mr. Bukhari.... please control you emotions... we are not going to blindly follow every dumb thing you say or do just because you are the 'Shahi Imam' !! You blew it this year... but next year can we please have our Eid in a decent and dignified manner ?!?! Without any controversy ?!?! Huh ? What say you ??

Please... I think everyone would appreciate that !!

Three births and a party !!

What a day 18th October is... our story starts 20 years ago...


18th October 1986, a prince was born. Second in the line for the Ramzanion throne and the Ainzanion Empire. Everyone calls him Muffy, I call him MONSTOR! My little brother...

Yesterday, he celebrated his 20th birthday... he and his friends rocked the house. I've never seen the place more dirty than it was after they were thru! But, in the end, if you'd ask me... he took way too much time! I mean come on! I've been 22 forever now and he just made 20 ?!?! Grumble grumble...


18th October 2006, I became a 'daddy's work friend'!! :-(

Yesterday, a colleague of mine had a baby daughter! A few years from now when the kid can understand words, my friend is gonna tell her about 'Ahmer uncle'!! DAMMIT!! It freaks me out! Already kids on the street say "Unkil... can you pass the ball?" AND I DON'T EVEN LOOK THAT OLD!! Sniff sniff...


18th October 2006 (again), I became the supreme elder brother!! :-D Yesterday, another prince was born! The 7th brother (counting all cousins, we are now seven brothers and one sister)... came into this world. He completes my Mamu's (mother's brother) family.

His Royal Highness, Prince Baybee of Ainzania

Welcome to the world little brother!! :-D Now... the whole family is going to go into the 'for the first time' craze. We celebrated his first poop yesterday... and thats just the beginning!! But... I don't care... its cool... you don't get a little baby brother everyday you know!! ;-)

Ainz is in the building !!

Aaaaahhhh.... I've moved !!! Finally !! Hmmm... I've gotten all my blogs.... and I've gotten all my comments !!!! So.... yea ! This is like my first Blogger entry !!! Yaaaaaeeeee.... I shall write a goodbye note on my MSN Live Spaces blog... cause even though MSN policy sucks (only MSN registered users can leave comments)... i liked my space !!

Also, a BIG THANK YOU to Kartik, for telling me about the date manipulation funda !!! ;-)

Later Update :

I've written my last goodbye on MSN Live Spaces and am totally 'Blogger Boy' now !! Yaaaeeee....

Damn Microsoft !

This post was first published on 18th October 2006 at 01:02 AM on my previous blog

So... its true... I had been told by Kartik... and today... I know for sure... One CANNOT post comments on MSN Live Spaces if he/she doesn't have a MSN id !! Therefore... only people with accounts on MSN can leave comments on my blog.... and since I know that MSN Live Spaces isn't very popular, this dumb Microsoft rule is restricting a lotta people from leaing any comments here...

I tried to get around it a lot today but.... I guess there isn't a way... yet. But what the hell... Screw them... I've had an un-used Blogger account for almost two years now and I'll move into that ! Just gotta figure out how to take all my blogs with me... Hmm... I am also going to delay my posts and only put up something new on Blogger now...

Setting up now... hope to be back in action soon !!

Stop whining !

This post was first published on 12th October 2006 at 03:49 PM on my previous blog

Lately, the popular Google owned networking site Orkut, has been getting a lot of attention in the Indian press. The reason ? Well, there exist some 'communities' on that site that are spreading hate against India. There are a number of communities that even have their names as 'I Hate India'. Well... anyone who regularly uses Orkut (like myself) will not be suprised by this. Infact, we regularly keep getting posts and messages from fellow Indians giving links of such communities so that we can 'report them as bogus' (Orkut provides that option). Now it seems some hot-blooded and extremely patriotic Indian has launched a complain with the Aurangabad high court asking them to do something about it. Maybe block those communities or ask Google to delete them or maybe even block Orkut from India. Hmmm... to that person, I'd like to ask... WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU ?!?!?! CAN'T YOU FIGHT A BATTLE WITHOUT RUNNING TO YOUR MOMMY TO HELP YOU OUT ?!?!

Geeezz ! Thats the fuckin problem with us Indians ! We'd rather avoid the problem than face it ! Asking the High Court just shows that we are losers and cannot handle a few punks online. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT ? ALL INDIANS TO BE LABELED AS LOSERS AND CRY BABIES ?!?! Come on now ! Everyone knows that if there are 'I Hate India' communities then there also are 'I Hate Pakistan' comminities being run by Indians ! But we don't see the Pakistanis crying and running to their courts ! If you are so hurt by them, then report them as bogus or complain to Google personally or fight them from within ! YEA ! THATS RIGHT ! Lemme tell you how....

A few weeks ago, I got a link for a 'I Hate India' community and the sender asked me to report it as bogus. I clicked on the link and went on to the main page. Before reporting, I wanted to see what rubbish 'those' Pakistanis were writing against us. I checked out their various threads and you know what... I WAS FUCKIN SUPRISED ! It wasn't a 'I Hate India' community at all ! It had been hijacked by a number of Indian Orkut users and they were all flooding it with pro-India slogans ! Infact, if any anti-India posts were made there would be 10 pro-India posts for it ! It was amazing ! Only the name had 'hate' for India... everywhere else... it was totally pro-India ! I was so inspired ! Thats the way to do it ! THATS HOW YOU FIGHT BACK ! Our fellow citizens went to the root of the problem and destroyed its very core ! I didn't haveta report it as bogus ! There was no need !

So the next time someone sends you a link to a hate site, think about this method ! Defeat them at their turf and only then will you get the sweet sweet taste of victory ! If you keep crying foul and running to the courts then you are just making us weak ! And let me tell you this, if Orkut is blocked from India, then the biggest losers will be us Indians ! Indians are the third biggest group of users on that site ! Blocking it (or those communities) will not make them go away ! They will still exist and keep on making fun of us ! If you want them to shut down then fight them and destroy them ! Lets face our problems ! I would like to request Google and Orkut to let the communities be... we'll take care of them ourselves ! Just the collective farts of our billion citizens will be enough to blow them all away !! :-p

Aaarrgghh ! I be tagged !

This post was first published on 11th October 2006 at 05:48 PM on my previous blog

Tagged by Kartik

It should be noted that I am extremely unhappy with my job and office right now and so a little part of my frustration might actually show up here.


What is the best thing about my workplace ?

Free high speed Internet. Thats it. I bring my Lappy along... plug it in... and surf all day long. (I am supposed to work, but now, I have very successfully learnt the art of looking busy !)


What do I hate about my workplace ?

Its in the next fuckin state ! I haveta drive about 80 kms everyday (coming and going). Not to mention 70% of my income actually goes into the fuel to reach work !


What small irritants at the workplace really annoy me ?

Passing the buck, in work or blame. No matter who screws up, in the end, if you arn't loud enough defending yourself, you'll be blamed ! And also the way people say double meaning things to point fingers at you ! AAAARRRGGGGHHHHH !!!!


Describe the actions/quirks of the weirdest person I work with (can be a co-worker, employer, or a vendor if you are self employed)

There is this one dude who refuses to wash his hands everytime he uses the loo ! I've seen him wag his thing, zip up and walk out ! I mean, the wash basin is like a feet away ! USE IT YOU DIRTY BASTARD !

(I've got a mild case of cleaniness disorder)

What is one thing that I would change at my workplace to make life a helluva lot better?

Make myself the BOSS ! I'd fire all the losers who know nothing and make the most noise ! Anything less than that is still a pain in the ass !


Pick five songs that I'd like played at my funeral......

Hmmm... I've given this a lot of thought and couldn't really come up with anything. Also I don't think there are many songs that would be worthy enough to be played at 'my' funeral ! :-p So, I think i'd rather like to go with just music. So lets see....

1. Theme of The Truman Show
2. Theme of Apollo 13
3. Theme of Saving Private Ryan
4. An original composition by Hans Zimmer (composed to honour me)
5. An original composition by A.R. Rehman (again, in my honour)

Accompanying this I would also like, a 189 gun salute and detonation of a nuclear warhead (to dig the hole for my grave), all syncronised with the music !

And now... I pass it on to Axa, Andi, Smellygator and Muffy !! Eat my shorts !! :-p

Of Evolution, Intelligent Design and The New Earth Creationists

This post was first published on 8th October 2006 at 02:29 PM on my previous blog

People might think i'm obsessed with religion and religion vs. science arguments. But there are some things that I just need to get out of my system !

A few days ago, I did a bit of reading about the great debate on the 'origins' of earth and human beings (evolution vs. intelligent design) and well, I think it cannot get anymore dummer than this ! I mean some parents are actually insisting that 'Intelligent Design' be taught in 'Science' classes in school ! Science classes ?? What the hell does science haveta do with Intelligent Design ?? Infact what does 'schooling' haveta do with intelligent design ? Evolution is taught because it is a part of out presently accept notions in science. Intelligent design is nothing of that sort ! Then how does it merit the status of being taught in school ? If you want to teach 'your' kids that Darwin was wrong and that 'God' actually did it all, then take him/her to your helpful family priest ! Or tell him/her that yourself ! But why are you insisting on shoving 'this' down everyone else's throats too ?? Just imagine... on one hand teaching an entire generation of kids about evolution and how we evolved from monkeys and on the other hand telling 'em that thats all crap and 'God' intended us to be this way and hence we are ! Those poor kids won't know what hit them ! Now I believe in 'live and let live', but when things start getting screwed up on a larger scale then it really pisses me off ! I cannot imagine my kids ever learning about 'Intelligent Design' in school and then actually pretending that it has anything to do with science.

Personally I believe in evolution. It is the most likely explanation and a lot of evidence over the last couple of hundred years has pointed towards it being correct. But, I'll also grant that widely accepted science theories in the past have also failed at times and have been replaced by a better understanding of the past. None the less, evolution holds for now (and maybe for quite a long time to come) and is rooted in science. Facts and discoveries are used to validate it. It existes still because everything that we have discovered so far has led us to believe in it. On the other hand, the same is not the case with 'Intelligent Design' and 'New Earth Creationists'.

Before going any further, let us first understand what theory acutally means in todays science. It means a fact or established truth which is based on/validated/proved by other already proven facts. Therefore a 'theory' is not some idea that someone had. For example, earlier on we had the 'gravitational laws' or the 'magnetic laws', they weren't called theories but laws. Today we have the 'big band theory', 'quantum theory', 'theory of realtivity' etc. Now this doesn't mean that just because earlier ones were called laws then they are established truths, but rather, the term 'theory' means that in todays science. A theory is a fact based on other previously proven facts !

Of Evolution : The dude Darwin basically said that life first started off in the warter as single cell organisms and then devoloped to more and more complex beings as millions and millions of years passed and human eventually evolved out from apes. Also that all this was a random event and its just a matter of chance that it happened on this planet. This is widely taken to be the 'most logical' and 'scientific' answer to the 'where the fuck did we came from' question. All scientific evidence points to it. Till now atleast.

Of Intelligent Design : Now the people who believe in this say that human beings are too 'complex' and 'special' to have evolved from monkeys or algae. They say that some kind of higher intelligence (Mostly God) intended us to be this way and we have turned out to be, cause humans are just too 'smart' and 'special' to be a product of 'chance' and 'random occurance' (yea right!).

Of The New Earth Creationists : According to me, they are the worst of the lot ! Now these people claim that not only did God create man and that evolution is rubbish but also that the earth is just a few thousand years old and not millions as 'many' scientists claim ! ARE YOU KIDDIN ME ?!?!?! The worst part is that they pretend to validate their claims by science. I have read their reasoning and ITS FUCKIN CRAP ! Its NOT science.. ITS RUBBISH ! This one dude runs some natural reserve somewhere. There is an active volcano nearby. He points to the recent destuctive activities of the volcano and the effect it had on the surroundings and says that 'look ! a volcano just changed the entire place in a matter of hours! you don't need millions of years for it'. WoW ! You must have done your majors in geology ! :-p They say that the geological activity of the earth could have made it into what it is in a matter of a few thousand years. Hmmm... I got a few questions for you...

1. What about carbon dating ?
2. The fossils we find all the time ?
3. Coal and Oil that you dump up in your BBQs and SUVs ?

Very basic, please tell me how your 'science' can explain these happening in a matter of a few thousand years ? They also say that "oh! Evolution is just a 'theory'!"... Well... then you don't know what science is buddy (read what theory means a little uppar) !

Then I just don't get these American parents ! Whats with them ? The more devoloped they get, the dumber they seem to be getting. I mean you guys really don't have anything better to do than to push for an un-proven concept like 'Intelligent Design' in schools ?!?! If its a matter of faith then keep it to yourself, its supposed to be a very personal thing ! Teach it to your kids and tell it to anyone who might wanna hear, but trying to make it compulsary in schools ? Very irresponsible! Not only are you just going to confuse young kids but also make a mockery of science and everything that we as 'people' have discovered and achieved till now !!

I don't really think we 'humans' are anything special. To err is in our nature, we sin non stop, weakness is always in our hearts and so are selfishness and hippocarcy. I believe thats its a BIG 'CHANCE' that life devoloped on this planet! We could have ended up like Mars or Venus but we were lucky. I also think there must be more 'other' races out there who deserve more attention from God. We ain't nothing special !

And if indeed there was a 'higher being' who led to our creation then his role must have been limited to the primary atom which exploded to make the universe (big bang) or alternatively maybe some alien race decided to have a little experiment on earth and see how life evolves here.... BUT IN EITHER CASE... EVOLUTION STILL STANDS ! Some 'higher being' just moulding Adam and Eve in his lab and sending them down to earth just to populate... well... seems.... like a fairy tale (good to hear, hard to digest) ! And is definately NOT science !

I sense a change in the winds

This post was first published on 5th October 2006 at 01:47 PM on my previous blog

I'm a war freak. Don't get me wrong ! I don't crave for wars... rather they facinate me. Historical wars.. all of them. They signify the brightest and the darkest aspects of the human mind. From the greatest blunders to the just causes. I think the two world wars defined the world as we know it today. It is because of them that the human race is where it stands today. The accelerated scientific growth during those brief periods pushed us beyond the 'then' accepted boundaries ! I really think that despite all the death, destruction and atrocities, the two big wars did leave behind their benefits.

Now, I've always maintained that there isn't going to be a 'Third World War'. I think the human race has grown smarter than that. I really don't think any leader of any country, no matter how much noise he/she makes, will not 'actually' use a nuclear warhead and trigger a nuclear war. I know, a lot of people will disagree and throw a couple of names saying so and so will use it and all but I think one really needs to have XXXXXXXXXL sized balls to push that red-button. But now, I sense a change in my mind. I think there is a possibilty, and quite a good one, that we may haveta face a big one in our life times. And its not going to be nation vs. nation, rather now I believe its going to be religion vs. religion. After (and due to) the events of 9/11, our world is getting increasingly polarised on the basis of religion. How long before all impartial voices are drowned ? How long before everyone is forced to choose a side ? The battles have already started. Today, I can still take comfort in the fact that its secular states vs. extremist idologies. But what if this changes ? Can there really be a winner in a religion vs. religion war ? And what of the victor then ? How will they re-establish order based on a religion ? What happens to the secular democracy that we crave ? I really don't connect democracy with religion ! I don't think they can go hand in hand totally. Always, somewhere down the line, democracy is strangled. There are no true religious democratic states. I mean, I cannot see a maulana or sadhu or even the Pope as a credible head of state !

If there indeed is a world war in our future, rest assured, its going to be more devastating than anything that this planet has ever seen. Already the nature of war has changed. The front lines are everywhere. There are no 'battlefields' anymore. You cannot tell a civilian from a combatant untill that bomb strapped on his chest blows up in your face. So... who decides who to shoot and who to leave ?

As we can all see from the American mis-adventure in Iraq, victory is a relative term.

Ouch ! Piracy hurts !!

This post was first published on 2nd October 2006 at 06:51 PM on my previous blog

Today, just a little while ago, I got a taste of what it is like to be standing on the other side of the priracy divide. Sniff... So there I was, logging on today after a day of activities in the 'real world' and I decided to check up on my email (Now the percentage of useful mail that anyone gets in a single day is always negligible but we check it religiously anyway). Got a couple of useless spam crap mails and a couple of forwards from an old old friend of mine. Deleted the spam and clicked on the first forward (almost mechanically) and hmmm... something about being a better Muslim and all... read through it... next... AND WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS ?!?!?! WHOA ! HOLD THE PHONE... HOLD THE PHONEEEEEE !!!!!

:-o

I recognised what was written right away ! 'I' had written it ! A looooong time ago but had only decided to post it on my blog a few days ago ! It was all me ! So i scrolled up and down... no... NO... NO CREDIT ! I check the mailing list... its been forwarded to all contacts.... ALL CONTACTS !!

:'-/ All contacts from Orkut... thats like sending it free across the planet ! And without even a simple acknowledgement ! The blog was 'Un-Official Road Rules and Laws of Delhi'. Also, Delhi had been changed to India to make it relevent to everyone. I promtly mailed a protest to my friend but I guess the damage has been done. Its 'out there' now... in the public domain !

So... this is it... this is what it feels like. Maaaaannnnn... Piracy blows... The worst part is that I was going to send that blog to this publication and now... Damn disappointed.

Hmmm.. but can't even blame my friend. Bet he didn't really think about what he was doing. I knew him for a long time and am pretty sure he meant no harm. I only wish people are more careful. What makes us think that we can just take anything off the Internet and its ok ? We all do it all the time. Only this time I am at the 'other' end of the stick !

Part 4 and it ends here !!

This post was first published on 2nd October 2006 at 06:27 PM on my previous blog

Part 4 of the 'Love' series !

Hey Andi, sorry for talking so long to write back but i gotta little busy with stuff. Anyway, all said and done I agree with you on all counts with varying degree of agreement. But then thats what constitues personal opinion ! Again, it was a nice experience getting to know another persons perspective (and you being a girl was a cherry on top) ;-) heehee... Anyhow... on to the next topic... whatever that may be !!

To Confess or not to confess :: The eternal debate

This post was first published on 1st October 2006 at 03:26 AM on my previous blog

For all those readers who have 'just' joined us, this post is part 3 of an un-predicted but interesting discussion about 'love'. It starts from my post 'About a Boy' (Part 2 is 'Why we said the things we said').

Hey Andi,

This is my reply to your reply to my reply to your post about 'love'. Heehee... So here goes...

The first words that escaped out of my mouth were, "Dear Lord", followed by, " Thats one big ass reply !". :-p heehee.. Its almost like I've unleashed a monster ! Snicker snicker... just kidding... I had read your reply in the morning (Indian time) but was kinda rushed so couldn't reply right away. Now I see you have made a few changes. Anyway, so lets start.

I am not suprised that you'd 'beg' (:-p) to differ. See, I think the concept of love is universal and along with the concept of 'religion', it is a very personal thing that varies from one person to the other.

Test of time

I agree with you 100 percent there. A person should never rush and make hasty decisions when it involves peoples lives like this. I have known people who have regretted a lot about how they moved up too fast and should have taken it slower. But I also know people who took too much time and by the time they were sure that they were in 'love', the object of affection was beyond their reach (emotionally or had moved to another continent or gotten over them). Therefore, that leaves a very small 'window of opportunity' and so a fine balance is required between waiting and actually doing something about it. Also, its not always possible to re-kindle a possible romance after some months or years. Who knows you might never meet that person again ! Its not necessary that you were close to the object of your affection in the first place ! A fine example of all this would be the guy you had a crush on. He liked you too then but he waited and waited and took his time and now he comes forward. You have moved on and now you know that it was just a 'crush'. But I'm sure you wud've said yes then ! For the guy, 'that time' was it and he blew it. For you, you would have realised by now that you made a mistake and probably would have broken up. BUT, i can guarentee you that he would any day prefer that little time spent with you than all of life without you (taking for granted ofcourse that he was a genuine person and not just some horny pig).

Men the go-getters

See, guys may seem quick to decide but they always know what they are doing. At that point of time anyway. And its not always about being horny (guys can be horny 24/7 for probably years on end till their body finally gives in). If it were left to the girls to ask out guys... well... then good luck world ! :-p And yes, girls take way too much time.

Trust Fate ?

Yaar... all that you said in this regard only matters if a person actually believes in the concept of 'fate'. I kinda don't. I believe that if you need something done then go ahead and do it. You can't really sit around looking for a sign. This doesn't mean that you rush into everything. Take your time. Maybe, some kind of sign may present itself, but incase it doesn't, then please don't wait forever. Timing is eveything and not everyone can get it right all the time !

LOVE for sure ?

Now HERE I would wanna differ with you the MOST ! I think you know 'love' and 'how to be loved and love back' from the moment you are born ! I don't think the brain needs to devolop some special area just to conprehend love for that significant other ! Sure it may not be fully developed till age 25, but how does that prove that our ability to love and be loved also doesn't fully develop till age 25. We we take that line of reasoning then a 30 year old brain is fully developed, more mature and way more experienced than a 25 year old brain. Then should we all just wait to be 30 ? or better yet 90 ? No ya... I cannot wait that loooooong ! :-p

Now for your question " how do you know how you've met the one if you haven't tested any other option let alone see all the potentials of what life may have in store for you"

See, I think this question is most valid if a person goes ahead and marries the very first person he/she goes out with ! I wouldn't recommend that ! But even then, you never know, maybe its a match 'made in heaven'. It could be perfect... or could be a mess. Anything is possible.

And the beauty about the 'trail and error' way is that its NOT marriage ! So if you do find some one better, its best if you move on. Otherwise you are actually living a lie and basically just ruining your life and the life of your present partner by denying him/her the love that he/she deserves.

I agree, I believe in the trial and error way but, what you are talking about is the next step ! I've just realised. We are both talking about the same thing but only at different stages. I say AFTER you've found the right guy/girl, then comes the 'safe,distant yet consistent' part. For me thats the natural evolution of the relationship. I don't think one can start from the 'safe, distant yet consistent' stage.

And your being a Libra can't possibly help ! :-p i know a lotta libras and man... YOU PEOPLE ARE INCAPABLE OF TAKING DECISIONS !

And not only your female friends but also me and I'm sure a lot of my male friends will also agree that "love for us is when we can't stop thinking about a person in her absence... time proximity with that person should not be a big issue". Thats not in dispute. But the "what if we can't find anyone better" got me confused. Um.. so what if you can't find anyone better ? Doesn't that just mean that you already are with the better person ?!?!

What about 'think before you leap' ?

I think if you 'think' too much about it then you are just killing the excitement factor. Sometimes you should just go with the flow and take life as it comes to you. It can turn out to be very rewarding ! If you start thinking about 'how the hell am i going to make this work?' even before you start, then the whole thing pretty much looks doomed to me !

Now i think you might have mis-understood me a little bit. The product of the confession of 'A' is of a lot of concequence to him. But that may not necessarily alter his life significantly. If she says 'yes', then his life would change for the better. But , if she is to say 'no', then hs life cannot get any worse. Why ? Because in this particular case -

(a) the two people are not very close.
(b) they hardly have any interaction at all anymore (they did not have much to start with anyway).

They rarely meet or talk. She not really a part of his life in the 'physical' sense. Emotional yes. Therefore all of us (including him) think that she has been 'lost'. So, a confession can't really push her any further away. But, it can make him feel better (as learnt from my personal experience). That might sound selfish, but another aspect is that maybe she has gotten sick of waiting for him to ask her out (we thought she gave a lotta hints during the early days) and so confessing might actually re-kindle the whole thing !

And trust me, telling someone how much you 'love' them can never be a waste of time, effort or energy. Besides, who doesn't like hearing it ? :-p

Expressing Love

What you say sounds very romantic but I'm sure at some point of time, you'd just like to hear that person tell you how much they love you. I know I would. That could be romantic too.

What do you want out of love?

Unfortunately the practical ways to make a realationship work leave very little room for 'Ideal Love' of that kind to survive. Everyone expects. I should know. I usually don't expect anything from anyone, but once in a while, even my hopes are raised. Its only human... to expect.

Issues with Proximity

Like I said before, in this case, he isn't around her at all anyway. So it can't get any worse. Therefore, he is not really escaping from anything. Who says that its do or die ? That if the answer is 'no' you have to break all contact ? If the girl has her heart in the right place, then i'm sure this 'relationship' can atleast continue at the same level even after the confession.

Korean Culture

Like I said before, it sounds and probably is a very romantic way to make some one feel loved. But a few people (like me) would actually like to hear it. I see it as an extension of the same romantic gestures.

Moral of the story : When guys see someone they like, they find the courage and go for it (usually ! But trust me its not easy to tell a girl you like her. Even if you've been friends forever). Also, you should only wait and watch (delay it) if you believe in 'fate', otherwise you are just screwing with the other persons feelings !

Even if its meant to be, one still needs to 'do something about it'. Things don't happen on their own !

Also, I love this song and your version is EXCELLENT ! I'm going to download it ! You sing well ! Its been playing over and over all this while !! I never thought that 'About a boy' would lead me to write so much about 'love'. And GOD ! You had a LOT to say about the topic ! :-p Anyway...its been a great experience ! Its nice to get a different perspective of things !

A couple of years ago (in my ignorance then), I had tried to define 'love'. Needless to say, I had crashed and burned and decided its probably best left a mystery.

Right then, I'm off to sleep land. You take care and yea... lets keep talking about more things ! :-)

Keep in touch !